hansenkd wrote:
Martin is remarkably camp a lot of the time--the women's glasses, etc.--but I would never label him as homophobic. Poking fun at your straight sons who behave in stereotypically gay ways is not the same as ridiculing somebody who is actually gay (and here the analogy would be more toward, say, a gay baseball player than to a gay man who likes opera and dresses flamboyantly).
TylerRodan wrote:hansenkd wrote:
Martin is remarkably camp a lot of the time--the women's glasses, etc.--but I would never label him as homophobic. Poking fun at your straight sons who behave in stereotypically gay ways is not the same as ridiculing somebody who is actually gay (and here the analogy would be more toward, say, a gay baseball player than to a gay man who likes opera and dresses flamboyantly).
That's the subtle homophobia of it though. It wouldn't be "poking fun" if gay wasn't seen as something bad. Assumptions like, because Frasier likes fancy things means that he likes to have sex with men, therefor I will make fun of him liking fancy things as code for calling him gay *is* homophobic. It is not excusable because it's funny (and whether it's funny is debatable), and it has nothing to do with groups of marginalized people reclaiming words from the majority. It's a cheap shot and a very base attempt at humor, and saying that it's OK because a writer/director is gay does not make it non-prejudiced.
It just bothers me because the show has demonstrated that can be sophisticated in it's humor- so I am always disappointed when it takes the low road and relies on pejorative stereotypes.
TylerRodan wrote:It wouldn't be "poking fun" if gay wasn't seen as something bad..
TylerRodan wrote:Assumptions like, because Frasier likes fancy things means that he likes to have sex with men, therefor I will make fun of him liking fancy things as code for calling him gay *is* homophobic..
Eddie2012 wrote:
So the writers are not only homophobic, but also genuinly hate the British, the Germans and the French. And dogs of course. And so forth. Interesting...
Patrick wrote:There's a difference between being made fun off in a lighthearted way and being depicted like some inferior kind of human being that is being tolerated only behind closed doors
Eddie2012 wrote:Patrick wrote:There's a difference between being made fun off in a lighthearted way and being depicted like some inferior kind of human being that is being tolerated only behind closed doors
Ah okay, I see what you mean now. I think. I am still struggling with the message that when poking fun at someone by hinting he/she might be (a closet) gay, it must automatically mean I find homosexuality wrong.
If my colleagues often ogles our boss and I playfully hint she might (secretly) want to see more of him than spreadsheets - does it automatically mean I'd find this, or even an affair, wrong? Because it's frowned upon by many?
Or, in other words: Could it be that the sensitivity around the whole subject stems from the assumption that all non-gay people find homosexuality wrong per se?
Patrick wrote:Eddie2012 wrote:Patrick wrote:
Or, in other words: Could it be that the sensitivity around the whole subject stems from the assumption that all non-gay people find homosexuality wrong per se?
Let me put it this way: How often do you see open gay people being made fun of by people implying that they might be straight?
freewill wrote:...
This isn't exactly what you're looking for, but here's an early-season Friends clip where Phoebe is shocked to learn that the gay ice dancer she had been married to for 6 years (a marriage of convenience) is actually straight.
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Patrick wrote:Let me put it this way: How often do you see open gay people being made fun of by people implying that they might be straight?
hansenkd wrote:Look, the point is that it is gay writers and directors and actors who are responsible for all of this. If they're OK with it, why the hell should we all complain about it? Geez.
TylerRodan wrote:That's the subtle homophobia of it though. It wouldn't be "poking fun" if gay wasn't seen as something bad.
Patrick wrote:There's a difference between being made fun off in a lighthearted way and being depicted like some inferior kind of human being that is being tolerated only behind closed doors.
hansenkd wrote:I'm actually more bothered by irrational behavior of the women who storm out on him without considering all the facts or giving him the slightest benefit of the doubt. "Can't Buy Me Love," "You Scratch My Book...," "Frasier's Imaginary Friend," and "First Do No Harm" spring to mind. Not one of these ladies is very compassionate, and in the maddening case of Honey Snow, she led him down that road herself! How was he supposed to know where the line was that could not be crossed? There are even more minor examples, the first two Dates with the Breakup (you know, the first one-hour episode), for example. The women in "Dial M for Martin," "Secret Admirer," etc., etc. All of these women are pretty much b*tches. And then that horrible born-again woman in Party, Party DOES give him multiple chances (which is pretty refreshing) until the big letdown at the end of that episode when we realize that she's not what she seems. I don't think I'd count Regan. She seemed pretty forgiving, and Frasier eventually just gave up with her because so many things went so wildly wrong.
That whole trope is one of my big issues with the show. Although there is a payoff at the end where Charlotte subverts this (the whole point of the grossly misunderstood "Detour" episode).
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