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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby CatNamedRudy » Sat Dec 31, 2011 4:53 am

Allison Chains wrote:
mickeba wrote:That episode where Daphne spied on Nile's patient was just too much.


I know, the insecurity that showed was pathetic. What were they thinking?!


Yeah but the cricket storyline made up for the stupidity of the rest of the episode.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Maple » Tue Jan 10, 2012 8:10 am

Allison Chains wrote:
mickeba wrote:That episode where Daphne spied on Nile's patient was just too much.


I know, the insecurity that showed was pathetic. What were they thinking?!


They were thinking of real life. This is how people behave. I am now a 47 year old musician who has toured extensively for 3 decades. You should have seen what I have seen. I am into my 4th decade of touring.

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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Moondancing » Thu Jan 12, 2012 10:00 pm

I didn't like some of the changes that came with it. Daphne became way too cultured, that just didn't seem natural to me. One episode Daphne mentioned going to the opera and it just rang false.


I think it may have had something to do with Jane Leeves becoming a bit of a diva herself. In long running shows there have been plenty of cases where the female lead starts to become more annoying and more of a characature of themselves rather than the character they are playing. (Shelley Long perhaps in Cheers, Michele Lee in Knots Landing.)

As she got bigger and bigger contracts for each series, her character lost its quirkiness and she tried to make her into a classy diva, which she never intended to be in the early seasons. I suppose Jane got a bit bored playing her like a kookie northerner and wanted to make her more like herself.

What makes me curious is whether it was her quirkiness that Niles was so attracted to, or was it the potential diva he could see in her?
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Whisper of cinnamon » Sun Feb 19, 2012 7:25 pm

I know that many critics at the time attributed Frasier's decline in S8 to the coming together of N and D. I always felt that this was a simplistic view, expressed by those who didn't know about other factors, such as the departure of Keenan and Lloyd. But the more I've thought about it, and the more I've analysed the show, the more I think that bringing N and D together was the key reason for the show's decline. I think that blaming the S8 writers for 'not handling N and D's relationship well' is not fair at all. Here is my analysis of why I think so, for what it's worth:

Very few shows manage to survive a significant change in their dynamic without some decline, and in the case of N and D, the change had a fundamental effect on the show in a number of different ways. Here are the ways that I've come up with:

1. Obviously, you lose forever the comedy of N's unrequited love/lust, and D's obliviousness, which provided so many great jokes and moments, and indeed whole eps, up to that point.

2, You lose the tension, drama and poignancy of that setup too.

3. The way the 2 came together – ditching their other partners – meant the partnership had to succeed or it would seem as though they had jilted their lovers for no good reason. (This was especially true of Donny, who was portrayed as a lovely guy, deeply in love with D, throughout. And before they made her awful in Whine Club, I actually thought Mel was a far more suitable partner for N than D.) This put an awful lot of pressure on the relationship working out, leaving no room to back track if it didn't. Thus even the way they were brought together seemed designed for maximum short-term impact and drama, giving little thought for the dramatic, rather than comedic, elements that would have to be sorted out in the following season, dealing with all the hurt feelings of the rejected lovers.
So the writers are faced with a problem. If the couple's relationship goes well, it is boring, has no tension, and provides no stories. But if the relationship is too problematic, then the audience will wonder why they got together in the first place. The manner of their coming together left no room for a gradual development of the relationship to something more serious. They were committed at the outset.

4. Jane and David have zero chemistry as a couple. David looks very uncomfortable with her physically. This really does not help the believability of the relationship, especially when N has been portrayed up to that point as brimming with sexual desire for her.

5. Given how their characters were portrayed in the previous seasons, N and D are not a believable or compatible couple. Indeed, a lot of the humour in previous seasons derived from N's feelings for D came precisely from the fact that his feelings were inappropriate, that they were unlikely to be reciprocated, and that the two were not compatible. D likes her men rather manly, from the evidence of earlier seasons, and a little more down to earth. So just for the sake of believability, the writers are forced to change their characters. (This was already happening in the second half of S7, as they were being groomed for their coupling). D becomes less kooky, N less highly strung, less mannered. Essentially, the elements that made them such wonderful characters are removed. That's 2 main characters, out of a show with 5 main characters, irrevocably changed for the worse. 2/5ths of the show now not working. This makes it virtually impossible for the show to continue to function successfully.

6. Loads of comedic and dramatic potential is lost in terms of story ideas too, as we cannot have any storylines about N and D's dating lives, areas which brought great humour and stories throughout the previous seasons. Much-loved eps, including Keenan's great farces, from The Matchmaker to The 2 Mrs Cranes to The Ski Lodge, rely upon D and N being single. N dating, in particular, is full of comedic potential (utilised very well in Shutout in Seattle, for example, or Four for the Seesaw.) All these story possibilities are now closed off.

7. There are problems with the dynamic of the ensemble too. There were two main comedic roles for D in the show. The first was as the unknowing recipient of N's adulation. The 2nd was her ability to be an outsider, to enter a scene with her washing or whatever, have a strange opinion or anecdote, and then leave again, leaving the others with puzzled or baffled expressions. But once she's with N, she's not an outsider. She stays on the sofa as N's partner, and her role changes. So the 2 main comedic roles D has on the show – gone!

Comedy shows have a delicate equilibrium of elements, and sometimes even small changes can destroy the sensitive balance of comedic spark and energy, the chemistry of the overall interplay. The bringing together of N and D caused not just one but a whole host of problems. But this is not the end of it, because these problems have a knock-on effect on the show as a whole, because then the other comedic aspects of the show suddenly have much greater importance, they have to carry the show even more, and the show inevitably becomes more forced, more unbalanced. Add to this that the show was declining in comedic potential at this stage anyway, and you really have a tipping point. (S6 already showed the show had passed its peak, which IMO was seasons 4 and 5. In S7, plots were already being recycled. And what else was there? For example, the Niles and Frasier rivalry had been covered, really, and there wasn't really anything more to say about Roz's character after 7 years, there was no more Maris to make fun of etc.) Regardless of the writers, bringing N and D together meant that there was always going to be a large, noticeable dip in quality at season 8, that would never be able to be fully restored. (I don't think it ever was restored. I am nowhere near as fond of S11 as some are. The episodes lack subtlety and emotional truth (I don't believe in the Martin and Ronee relationship, for one thing) and N and D's relationship, in particular, if anything feels even more forced in that season than in earlier seasons, and D's character is actually at her least charming and most annoying in S11.)

But it didn't have to be this way. Keeping D and N apart would also have had its difficulties, but nothing compared to bringing them together. Some people say 'they couldn't have carried on the same way any longer'. Why? I disagree with this. Look at some of the last jokes we get out of the old setup, for example D's risque wedding dress, and N's reaction to it, in A Tsar is Born, shortly before Back Talk, where it all changes. Even though we're seven years in, I find these moments wonderfully funny, and so does the audience. I think N and D should only have been brought together if and when it was known for sure that it was going to be the last season of the show.
Another option would have been to 'close the door' on the whole thing. I think one could have made a really lovely episode out of N confessing his feelings to D and her gently explaining that she liked him as a friend, but no more. It would have been heartbreaking for N, but then we could have seen him move on from this, and maybe start dating other people, maybe find someone more suited to him. At least this way the show could have remained true to the characters, and only the first two aspects on my list above would be an issue. The other problems listed would not exist. It would have been a very 'real', mature choice for the show. The more I watch seasons 8-11, the more I realise I just don't believe in N and D as a couple. (I always found the previous setup – i.e. N and D being friends, but N being very attracted to D – completely convincing.) I can forget this and still enjoy these later seasons, but the truth of that is still there, and in a show where I always felt the characters and relationships to be very emotionally real, however unlikely the plots, this is definitely the biggest single issue I have with the show from S8 onwards. It's the main reason, for me, that the 'magic' leaves the show. And none of it is to do with the way the writers of the later seasons 'handled the relationship', thus I think it's unfair to say this. I think people underestimate just how much more difficult the show became to write from S8 onwards. (I've read some 'N and D as a couple' fan fic, and whilst it is enjoyable, none of it is anywhere near as funny as anything in Frasier's first seven seasons!)

Phew, that turned into a long post! I welcome any comments/thoughts on any of the above!
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Omega » Tue Mar 20, 2012 5:45 am

Wow! That basically sums up my opinion of the N/D relationship!

Not that we really need any more reasoning, but: The funny moments with Niles and Daphne in seasons 1-7 were funny BECAUSE of their original dynamic. The funny moments with Niles and Daphne in seasons 8-11 were funny IN SPITE of their new dynamic.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Whisper of cinnamon » Fri Apr 06, 2012 11:59 am

Wow! That basically sums up my opinion of the N/D relationship!


Thanks, Omega!

Not that we really need any more reasoning, but: The funny moments with Niles and Daphne in seasons 1-7 were funny BECAUSE of their original dynamic. The funny moments with Niles and Daphne in seasons 8-11 were funny IN SPITE of their new dynamic.


I couldn't agree more!
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby tenpercenter » Sun Apr 22, 2012 12:39 am

i think its very sweet to watch at times. its damn right horrible in 9 and 10. but in s 8 and the final season i actually enjoy watching them together
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby StiltsInSeattle » Tue May 08, 2012 2:10 am

I seem to be very lone in this opinion.

I sort of probably made this my opinion because I mostly saw the later seasons when I began watching Frasier. I loved the show the moment I saw it and I loved Niles and Daphne. I don't believe it was a mistake because well I don't think it would have been great television for two people who love each other dearly and not be able to express this and to the person who said Daphne could have let him down "easily." I don't think that could happen because Niles loved her so much that letting him down easily would more likely be catastrophic. I'm quite sure he wouldn't be able to live without her, he'd never be happy nor would she because after she realises everything, wouldn't she notice how in the past all the small gestures he made. That would add to maybe some lingering feelings from the Christmas part (After Back Talk, s7). See I just think they were made for each other, even if they seem to not have much in common. Well, opposites attract. Niles and Daphne, to me. Are the most beautiful couple ever, they're situations reflect a newly-married couple. They don't have complete trust as they are still new as a married couple, maybe she is a bit snappy but couples fight. It reflects a normal life and still manages to add comedic flair.

Yes maybe my opinion doesn't suit some, but it suits me as well I loved Niles and Daphne straight through the series and well I was pretty desperate for them to get together and I was deliriously happy when they did.

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*That sounds like something Niles would say and well I did sort of learn of it's meaning through a fanfiction of Niles's Diary.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Eddie2012 » Fri Jun 01, 2012 4:29 pm

StiltsInSeattle wrote:...Are the most beautiful couple ever.


I find them even physically awkward. Someone mentioned that Niles seems uncomfortably with her and I have to agree. Even more so in the earlier seasons (whenever N has a change to embrace D - instead of going for it full throttle, D does after all - he kind of embraces her with his arms not or barely touching her, which I find really bizarre)

StiltsInSeattle wrote:They don't have complete trust as they are still new as a married couple .


Sorry, but that sounds a bit too Victorian to me :) . In these times I don't marry someone I don't trust. Finding yourself as a couple and getting used to each other happens before a marriage, not after.

StiltsInSeattle wrote:maybe she is a bit snappy but couples fight..


But that is the problem, isn't it - they do NOT fight. Daphne nags and Niles takes it lying down. I can imagine funny scenarios with them fighting over silly things that define their characters like kookiness and fussiness, but that is not happening.

StiltsInSeattle wrote:It reflects a normal life and still manages to add comedic flair.


I have to agree with what someone else here said earlier: the show remains funny in parts not because of their normal life relationship, but despite it.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby mickeba » Sun Jun 03, 2012 4:27 am

The problems that arose in the N/D relationship were all in the execution by the writers and they just didn't execute this well.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby mickeba » Sun Jun 03, 2012 5:34 pm

It would have been interesting if, rather than morphing Daphne into a more Niles-like character, they'd have morphed Niles to be Daphne-like, and by the end of the show, Frasier was stuffy, while Niles was loosened up.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Eddie2012 » Tue Jul 17, 2012 10:18 am

Whisper of cinnamon wrote:I think N and D should only have been brought together if and when it was known for sure that it was going to be the last season of the show.


In hindsight in might have been better to start the whole D/N thing later in the show. Of course no producer starts a show with 10 or more seaons already in mind and a lovesick Niles surely was one of the comic storylines designed to keep the viewers interested.
But realistically Niles infatuation did not have to be so instantaneous. The first series concentrated a lot on Frasier settling into Seattle, his new appartement, his new job and his struggle with new (Roz) or renewed (Martin, Niles) relationships. I think these storylines could have carried series 1 without Niles' newly found love interest. Maybe even Niles bizarre marriage to Maris could have played a stronger part during that time instead.

Whisper of cinnamon wrote:Another option would have been to 'close the door' on the whole thing. I think one could have made a really lovely episode out of N confessing his feelings to D and her gently explaining that she liked him as a friend, but no more. It would have been heartbreaking for N, but then we could have seen him move on from this, and maybe start dating other people, maybe find someone more suited to him. At least this way the show could have remained true to the characters, and only the first two aspects on my list above would be an issue.


In addition to Niles not falling in love head of heels as it was, it could have been portrayed a tiny bit more realistically without loosing too much comic value. His love could have grown over time - and even toned down a little at a later stage, if bringing them not together had been the plan. But his infatuation is sooo over the top love-of-his-life-at-first-sight/prince-found-princess-and-they-lived-happily-ever-after that not bringing them together was not really an option. Of course, had they started the whole N/D thing later, maybe towards the end of series 2 or somewhere in series 3, they could have had the same run for 7 years and them getting together would indeed have happened only in season 10 or 11 - and hence would have spared us a dull Niles and nagging Daphne :-). But then, hindsight is a sweet thing.
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Re: Was It A Mistake to Get Niles and Daphne Together?

Postby Hufty » Wed Jul 18, 2012 9:18 pm

Moondancing wrote:
I didn't like some of the changes that came with it. Daphne became way too cultured, that just didn't seem natural to me. One episode Daphne mentioned going to the opera and it just rang false.


I think it may have had something to do with Jane Leeves becoming a bit of a diva herself. In long running shows there have been plenty of cases where the female lead starts to become more annoying and more of a characature of themselves rather than the character they are playing. (Shelley Long perhaps in Cheers, Michele Lee in Knots Landing.)

What makes me curious is whether it was her quirkiness that Niles was so attracted to, or was it the potential diva he could see in her?


I think that there is always going to be a natural progression of a character.npeople change over eleven years in rl so why not on the telly too.

Niles was attracted to Daphne by the way she looks. Then later her hair, eyes etc.

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