frasier floyd wrote:Though I do recall someone pointing out that his last scene in the show is a rather depressing one- yelling out under the impression that Daphne was about to leave Niles at the altar as well.
frasier floyd wrote:Though I do recall someone pointing out that his last scene in the show is a rather depressing one- yelling out under the impression that Daphne was about to leave Niles at the altar as well.
frasier floyd wrote:Hi Pistol, I'm sorry if I offended you. Maybe if I elaborate you'll understand my perspective better. I agree that Daphne and Donnie were a better couple than Daphne and Niles, which felt quickly forced to me after so many years. With Donnie and Daphne, I guess I just didn't feel any chemistry between them. I'm not sure if this was due to the pairing of the actor/actress or their characters. Maybe if we had witnessed some romance between them it would've reinforced their relationship for me. Instead, we miss their relationship beginning (we just see them together at the cafe after the fact), and then hear more about their solo time together and their feelings for each other rather than experiencing it. Does that make more sense?
On a more superficial note, people do tend to date people who look like them, so I don't think it's entirely nonsensical to think their appearances make them an unbelievable couple; I don't find Daphne particularly striking, either, but besides being taller and thinner (and considered better looking by most standards) than Donnie, she also appears to be much younger. However, those opposite couples definitely happen in real life, they're just less common, so the pair's lack of emotional chemistry makes them see even more unbelievable for me.
Daphne and Joe felt most believable and realistic to me, even though we didn't see them together much at all compared to the other two men. At least we saw the sparks when they met in Frasier's apartment, and some intimacy of them waking up together in bed and in their kiss goodbye the morning Joe overslept there.
And Eddie, it's definitely true that people begrudge their ex's new relationships, even after moving on. I just thought Daphne was supposed to be totally over him, and so this kind of behavior was surprising to me when I noticed it. She just seemed a little jealous of his attention, but I know that's just my opinion.
frasier floyd wrote:...On a more superficial note, people do tend to date people who look like them,..
frasier floyd wrote:It definitely happens in real life! I know of at least one couple in which the woman is much more attractive and charming than the man (who, by the way, are wrong for each other for totally unrelated reasons). I didn't mean to imply that this never happens in real life, just that it's less common. Weren't there studies done on the subject of mating/ people attracting and being attracted to people similar to them? If I have time I'll look into it, but I remember discussing it in a psychology or sociology class a few years ago. From what I remember, it was subconscious rather than conscious discrimination.
Anyway, if I'd seen or felt any chemistry/intimacy between Daphne and Donnie, it would have been much easier to overcome any physical differences between them. I just never saw any love between them.
TylerRodan wrote:frasier floyd wrote:It definitely happens in real life! I know of at least one couple in which the woman is much more attractive and charming than the man (who, by the way, are wrong for each other for totally unrelated reasons). I didn't mean to imply that this never happens in real life, just that it's less common. Weren't there studies done on the subject of mating/ people attracting and being attracted to people similar to them? If I have time I'll look into it, but I remember discussing it in a psychology or sociology class a few years ago. From what I remember, it was subconscious rather than conscious discrimination.
Anyway, if I'd seen or felt any chemistry/intimacy between Daphne and Donnie, it would have been much easier to overcome any physical differences between them. I just never saw any love between them.
Yep, its called the Matching Hypothesis, research mostly done by Elaine Hatfield. Part of the hypothesis though, is that if there is inequality, the "lesser" partner has other things to compensate, so it all turns out equal.
Not that differences in attractiveness is new on Frasier, I think it's been pretty well documented that both F and N date women who are much more attractive than they are. But I agree with you about Daphne and Donny, I never got any sense of passion or intimacy between the two of them.
TylerRodan wrote:frasier floyd wrote:It definitely happens in real life! I know of at least one couple in which the woman is much more attractive and charming than the man (who, by the way, are wrong for each other for totally unrelated reasons). I didn't mean to imply that this never happens in real life, just that it's less common. Weren't there studies done on the subject of mating/ people attracting and being attracted to people similar to them? If I have time I'll look into it, but I remember discussing it in a psychology or sociology class a few years ago. From what I remember, it was subconscious rather than conscious discrimination.
Anyway, if I'd seen or felt any chemistry/intimacy between Daphne and Donnie, it would have been much easier to overcome any physical differences between them. I just never saw any love between them.
Yep, its called the Matching Hypothesis, research mostly done by Elaine Hatfield. Part of the hypothesis though, is that if there is inequality, the "lesser" partner has other things to compensate, so it all turns out equal.
Not that differences in attractiveness is new on Frasier, I think it's been pretty well documented that both F and N date women who are much more attractive than they are. But I agree with you about Daphne and Donny, I never got any sense of passion or intimacy between the two of them.
Roverman wrote:...Yet Maris (from what we know about her) and Lilith are hardly oil paintings!
frasier floyd wrote:...so it's a little surprising that he didn't have better luck dating. I mean how many dates do we see him go on compared to Frasier?
hansenkd wrote:I do have some issues with "Visions of Daphne." I've always believed that Niles should have just simply declared himself in that episode, regardless of the visions. He would have then given her the choice before all the heartache. Frasier and Martin were right that he shouldn't have tried to make himself fit into the vision, but I think they should have encouraged him to declare himself.
Truth is, he should have declared himself way back in "First Date." Obviously well before she had her chance to make the speech about "never dating anybody going through a divorce," which, ironically, was only meant to comfort him after the Phyllis fraud had played out.
"It's my own fault. I had chance after chance to tell her how I feel, and I always kept my mouth shut--until tonight when I probably should have."
Donny and Daphne a more believable couple than Niles and Daphne?! Sacrilege! Infidel! I defy you, and use the ending of "Moons Over Seattle" as my weapon!!
hansenkd wrote:
Donny and Daphne a more believable couple than Niles and Daphne?! Sacrilege! Infidel! I defy you, and use the ending of "Moons Over Seattle" as my weapon!!
frasier floyd wrote:
Daphne and Niles felt forced to me after all those years of her only seeing him as Dr. Crane. I know there were a few episodes with her 'looking' at Niles after finding out about his feelings, but to go from that to them being a loving couple so quickly never gave me time to get on board. I was glad for Niles but couldn't see Daphne's part in the relationship. I thought she was most believable with Joe. It's very strange that after so many years in Seattle Daphne never had many dates or boyfriends; there's no way Frasier should've had more!
PistolPoet wrote:hansenkd wrote:
Donny and Daphne a more believable couple than Niles and Daphne?! Sacrilege! Infidel! I defy you, and use the ending of "Moons Over Seattle" as my weapon!!
And I step forth to parry your attack, scoundrel!
Sure, Niles and Daphne had some romantic moments, but all of them were integral to the plot and had to happen (Something Borrowed, Someone Blue, Taking Liberties, Moons Over Seattle, Daphne Returns). The rest of the time, if you see them objectively, like any ordinary couple, they lack passion and, at the same time, are terribly cheesy. The beginning of And the Dish Ran Away With the Spoon (which I've already complained about), is cringeworthy, when you see them kiss in the kitchen, it's just so rigid and unromantic. Then there's Sliding Frasiers, with Niles wearing that ridiculous t-shirt and dragging Daphne into the living room to show how it's adorable that she has sauce on her nose. If they were a real couple I knew, I'd be sorely tempted to slap them.
Also, they have nothing in common. I know people say opposites attract, but we don't really see that they're attracted to each other because they're different. To me it seems more like the writers worked around their differences and ignored them most of the time, except in Daphne Returns. Daphne reads things like "Slow Tango in South Seattle" and Honey Snow books; it's ok if she doesn't like the opera, but she actually fell asleep and snored in the middle of one, not even Martin did that. Niles is a huge snob and an elitist; based on what we know about him from the start of the show, I'd actually expect him to be embarrassed to take someone like Daphne out with his society friends, knowing she can't even talk about the same things as them. Of course, their relationship obviously works, so I guess it's implied that they've managed to learn from each other and adopt some of the other's interests, but I'm still saying that Daphne and Donny seem like a more effortlessly matched couple, and I think we would have seen more naturally romantic scenes with them, if they'd got more screen time together in season 7.
hansenkd wrote:At that point, you even see Daphne starting to buy into the snobbery! Daphne Does Dinner shows some of that, but there are other moments too. They were a lot more believable once they were married. Niles started to roll his eyes at her wacky stories, etc.
hansenkd wrote:
But you seem to be focusing a lot on Season 8, where, except for DR (in which they tried to rectify a lot of the miscues) it just didn't work. A lot of the problem in S8 did stem from Jane's pregnancy, and everyone knows that. By S9, it all pretty much fell into place (First Temptation was a watershed episode for that). And for all of S10's flaws, it did get Niles and Daphne right (had Gertrude only not been so ubiquitous). At that point, you even see Daphne starting to buy into the snobbery! Daphne Does Dinner shows some of that, but there are other moments too. They were a lot more believable once they were married. Niles started to roll his eyes at her wacky stories, etc. The heart surgery arc was very heartfelt indeed. She became a bit of a henpecker in S11, mostly in the Maris arc, but she was pregnant.
PistolPoet wrote:hansenkd wrote:
But you seem to be focusing a lot on Season 8, where, except for DR (in which they tried to rectify a lot of the miscues) it just didn't work. A lot of the problem in S8 did stem from Jane's pregnancy, and everyone knows that. By S9, it all pretty much fell into place (First Temptation was a watershed episode for that). And for all of S10's flaws, it did get Niles and Daphne right (had Gertrude only not been so ubiquitous). At that point, you even see Daphne starting to buy into the snobbery! Daphne Does Dinner shows some of that, but there are other moments too. They were a lot more believable once they were married. Niles started to roll his eyes at her wacky stories, etc. The heart surgery arc was very heartfelt indeed. She became a bit of a henpecker in S11, mostly in the Maris arc, but she was pregnant.
I am inded focusing on season 8 because it's only fair to do so when comparing Daphne & Niles to Daphne & Donny, since we never got the chance to see what Daphne & Donny would be like if they got married. My biggest problem with Dahne & Niles is that they didn't look believable from the very beginning, when couples usually through a very passionate phase; they just seemed sort of mismatched.
Plus, I don't think Jane's pregnancy had a lot to do with the lack of romance. Yes, the writers had to come up with that overeating story arc and yes, Daphne had to go to the spa, but in the meantime, their relationship should have been handled better. Of course, it didn't help that (and this could be only my own impression) Jane and DHP had no chemistry whatsoever.
I do agree with you that Daphne and Niles became more similar in seasons 9, 10 and 11, and I said that it was sort of implied that they would sooner or later acquire some of each other's interests etc., but still, to me they never seemed nearly as natural as Daphne & Donny or Daphne & Joe.
Ariel wrote:I have to admit that I always felt the relationship between Niles and Daphne was carried by the acting skills of the two actors involved and had no chemistry at all to help it. It says a lot for their skill that we believe it at all! I always felt that perhaps the one thing that would have really attracted Daphne's character to Niles was his shyness and gentleness, because after all she was English and the American men are quite brash in comparison to English ones.
The reason Frasier had so many relationships - might have been because he went for looks above all!!
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